Tuesday, February 11, 2014

On losing power and eating popcorn on front porches

I had a dream last night about some neighbor-friends I lived next to growing up. It's been about decade ago since I last saw them. 10 years and they ended up in my dream. Maybe you dream about the milk man but I just don't. My dreams seem to be a semblance of what's been important in my life. They are like scenes from a book, and the stories come out as vivid as if they happened yesterday (writer-brain?).

I dreamt that the power went out between my house and theirs, our Lebanese-neighbor friends who were always having fun parties outside (that we liked to crash) and who didn't create any division between our yard and theirs.

Our basement flooded when I was a teenager and I sat on the front porch with the girls next door. We ate popcorn and watched the street fill up with water, wondering if we should get a raft while our dads tried to work the generator.

I sent a message to the girls today, younger than me by years but somehow married already (which I won't comment on), to tell them of the dream.

It's been awhile since we've talked, but I didn't bat an eye to send them a silly text. Somehow we'll always be neighbor friends.

These stories and dreams remind me that love and intimacy aren't as far away as we think but we -- I -- like to make them so.

It's easy to shut our doors. It's hard to do front porch living with people that matter, to let them know us enough that years later you can still send them a text about a dream you had about your dads rushing around to save your house from a flood.

My challenge to you: let intimacy look different today.

P.S. I'm loving this song right now.

I choose to go the route of friendships on these here link-ups (big surprise).
But this is the month of all kinds of love and in commercialized America, they like to throw it in your face. Do you have love, they seem to ask?

Hear the refrain ringing in your ears as you go about the day, the week, the month, the year....

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linking with

 
SheLoves Magazine: a global community of women who love and Jen for Soli Deo Gloria

12 comments:

  1. Oh this is so true... "It's easy to shut our doors. It's hard to do front porch living with people that matter." I'm liking your challenge. :)

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    1. Oh, good, I'm glad :). It's a tough one for sure but it's good for me to remember, too. Hope you're having a great week!

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  2. I love the idea of front porch living - it seems so simple and beautiful yet it's a shame more don't do their part to create that kind of intimacy. Thanks for linking up with Project: Underblog!

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    1. Thanks, Christina! I have recently learned about Project Underblog and I really like it!

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  3. I love this thought to let love look different today. It is the simple reminders that people are important. What an interesting correlation you've made between our front porches and texting. Texting can be a form of front porch for us now.

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    1. That's so true, Kathleen. You made a great connection there...our world really has changed, hasn't it? Still love the face-to-face best though :).

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  4. Oh I love how you touch on how we close down and refuse to be vulnerable. Intimacy can feel so scary! Thank you for linking up with Project: Underblog! We are so glad to find you!

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    1. Thank you, you too! What a fun community!

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  5. Hi Julie, Anne-Marie from Sheloves here.
    "These stories and dreams remind me that love and intimacy aren't as far away as we think but we -- I -- like to make them so." I love that in both this quote and your last line, you are taking the small steps to make the connection. Not just thinking of your neighbors or readers, but taking that step to actually close the circuit and make contact. So easy to miss that step and miss the wonderful things that usually come from the effort. Thank you for that challenge. And thanks for linking up!

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    1. Anne-Marie, thanks for the encouraging, wise words. Such a pleasure to meet you.

      I'm realizing that it's all of the small steps that make such a difference in the long haul, love that you touch on that with your comment. Great to connect with you.

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  6. Those childhood friendship memories are hard to beat. I'm linked to mine through social media but it can't touch that face-to-face let's hang out on the porch thing.

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    1. Yes! Good point. Great to connect with you here and in twitter-land, LK. :) Hope you are well.

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