Thursday, August 15, 2013

Wish List and Ashton Kutcher

Dear Ashton Kutcher,

First of all, kudos to you. I've jumped on the Hollywood bandwagon for a moment, and that's rare, but I have to say I learned two things about you: a) I enjoyed listening to your recent speech to teen audiences and b) all of a sudden your name is Chris?

That's pretty interesting, the whole name change thing. I'd like to try it, see if it grabs the attention of my teens at all.

You see, my kids look at me like I have three heads or pretend to fall asleep on me when I, their super cool counselor, talk to them about working hard and ask them about their dreams. All in a day's work.

Problem is, I don't go by any other names.

In all seriousness, I want to know if anyone is listening. To me, to you. No one screams and yells (enthusiastically, that is) at my job, so I can't be sure.

For the nature of a training at work today, we completed some case studies of particular situations we might run across with kids. Because it seemed like they pulled the most troubling situations they could find and put them together to create a nice little grab bag of problems, the second part of the activity was extremely useful.

We came up with a wish list for what we would like to see for these kids. A wish list? Thank you, and how much time do you have?

I could name you all the clinical things we wrote, but how about:

.graduating high school

.being independent

.anger problems resolved

.getting all their basic needs met

.understanding that they have a hope and a future

.KNOWING they are loved

.having dreams

.seeing that they matter.

I wish that kids would not be made fun of for being smart, for staying in school, for doing their work.

I wish that they would have their own wish lists, and they would stop being wishes.

It goes on and on... 

Ashton, or Chris, or whatever your name is, it can't be a bad thing to talk some encouragement to teens. Thanks.